A Letter to the Partner …

 

Dear Partner,

I am not here to replace you, I am here to support you.

Many partners are uneasy with hiring a doula as they worry about being replaced or overshadowed during the labor and birth experience. Please know that my role is to support both the pregnant person and you. I provide physical, emotional, and educational support, allowing you to focus all your attention on your loved one. I am your back-up, your support.

“The Doula provides emotional support; suggests and uses different techniques such as breathing, relaxation, movement and positioning to aid in labor and delivery; provides information to mom and dad throughout; helps mom (and dad) become informed about various birth choices; provides an advocacy voice for mom and acts as a liaison between the mother and the care provider; and — beautifully, wonderfully, thankfully — provides reassurance and comfort to the mother (first and foremost) but also to dad or partner.” — Testimonial on DoulaSpot.com

Do you feel like you’re reaching information overload? There’s a lot to learn in the months leading up to welcoming a baby. Having a doula is like having an expert in your back pocket. Someone that knows the aspects of labor and birth, can offer information and resources, and support you as you support your laboring partner. Birth is not only a physical process, but an emotional and psychological process as well. It can be very emotional for the laboring person and family.

Doulas are trained for this. We are prepared, ready, willing, and able to be right at the family’s side for the duration of the labor and birth experience.

If you have any questions please reach out and I’d be happy to talk through doula work with you in more depth.If cost is a factor, please let me know your budget as I offer sliding scale rates.

I look forward to joining your team!

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Are you considering a VBAC?

A VBAC is a vaginal birth after a cesarean and can cause a lot of confusion for a pregnant person and their partner.

Both the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and the National Institutes of Health encourage healthy, pregnant mothers with a prior cesarean to labor for a VBAC. However, the majority of pregnant persons have a routine repeat cesarean and this number has been on the decline. In 1996, the VBAC rate was at 30%, but by 2012 that number fell to 10%. This may be a result of access to accurate information about VBAC (ex: the misinformation surrounding uterine rupture) and therefore people cannot make an informed choice. Of all the laborers who attempt a VBAC, 70-75% will have a safe and successful VBAC (https://www.vbac.com/).

So is a VBAC right for you? That is something that only your care provider can assess. However, there are several online resources, like this one, that can help prepare you for a VBAC conversation. If you are in the NYC metro, consider attending an International Cesarean Awareness Network support meeting to learn more.

 

 

Additional Resources:

+ https://vbacfacts.com/

+ https://www.vbac.com/the-vbac-education-project/

+ https://www.ican-online.org/

 

 

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What is the role of a doula?

 

Carriage House Birth defines a doula as “a professional who supports people through major life changes”.
The word doula is derived from the Greek word δούλα, meaning “a woman who serves”. As a doula, I am trained to provide emotional, physical, spiritual, and/or educational support to you and your partner during the perinatal and birthing process. I am responsible for your emotional comfort and care, and here to support you by highlighting choices, providing education, and being a “beacon of calm for the family through the process at large” (CHB).

Postpartum doulas are trained to offer continued support for both parents and child after birth. This may include lactation support, nutritional information, overnight support if requested, light cleaning, and more. Postpartum doulas also offer support around loss, miscarriage, and abortion.
 
 

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Why include a doula in your birth experience?

 

The process of giving birth extends far beyond the physical. It is an emotional and transformative moment of a parents-to-be’s life. The role of a birth doula is to offer support during this time, prioritizing the emotional needs of the pregnant person, “mothering the mother”, and offering continuous labor support for the family.
A 2012 report published by the NIH, which analyzed over 15,000 births, found that persons with continuous labor support:

  • are more likely to have a spontaneous vaginal birth
  • are less likely to have intrapartum analgesia
  • are less likely to report dissatisfaction
  • are more likely to have a have shorter labor
  • are less likely to have a caesarean
  • are less likely to have an instrumental vaginal birth
  • are less likely to have regional analgesia
  • are less likely to have a baby with a low five-minute Apgar score

 

 

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Birth Doula Package

Meet and Greet

A complimentary meeting where we get to know each other. These can be conducted in person or over Facetime and last approximately 30-45 minutes. It’s recommended that both parents attend as additional Meet & Greets may incur a small meeting fee.

 

Three Prenatal Meetings

During these meetings, we will review how your pregnancy has gone thus far, your feelings and concerns, and discuss your birth preferences. I will help you to feel informed of your labor and birth options. I will also answer any questions you may have or offer you a referral. Each meeting lasts approximately 60-90 minutes and can be flexed to best fit your schedule. During these meetings, you will also have an opportunity to meet my back-up (the doula that will attend your birth should I have a personal emergency) in person or over Facetime.

Meetings may include accompaniment to an OB appointment, assistance in packing a hospital bag, discussion of your postpartum plan, and anything else you may need.
Prenatal meetings also include digital copies of:

  • Birth Preferences Questionnaire. An opportunity for you to learn more about your birth options and help guide you toward topics that are important to discuss with your birth team. This questionnaire is designed to help you to feel empowered throughout the labor and birth process.
  • Care Provider Questions. A resource sheet designed to help you better understand the philosophies of your OB or midwife and hone your birth expectations.
  • A Glossary of Birth Terminology.

I provide phone, text, and email support from the time of hiring.

 

Attendance and Support During the Birth

I will be on call for your birth starting at 37-weeks and through 42-weeks. Throughout your active labor and birthing stages, I will provide emotional, physical, and educational support. Should there be any reason I cannot attend your birth my back-up will attend.

I will also provide you lactation support with first latch and ensure that you, your partner, and your newborn are settled prior to leaving you (approximately 1-2 hours after birth).

 

One Postpartum Visit

The postpartum visit will last approximately two hours (with the option for more time at an hourly rate). Postpartum visit(s) include reviewing the birth and how you are feeling, lactation and feeding support (referrals available if needed), meal preparation, light housework, and more.

 

* Pricing is offered on a sliding scale.
 
 

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